One of the worst feelings you’ll ever have is failing after being misguided. Taking someone else’s advice, that for one reason or another you trust, and then being left to hold the bag when it all falls. That will make you feel as if you’ve been lied to.
And what can only make it worse is if you didn’t believe in the idea in the first place. If you wanted to go left and they told you, “no you should go right”.
If you are going to do anything you do it because you believe in the idea or the decision being made. If you do anything it’s because you think it’s the right thing to do. That’s the only way you build your gut and your senses. That feeling you get when something’s off during an interaction or exchange. You learn to read people and their body language. You start to sense the bullshit before it’s in your hand. It’s no different from learning anything in life. You have to fall or fail, it’s never a matter of what but rather when. And when you do, you have to reflect. The harder/higher you fall, the more you should reflect on what happened and how could’ve you avoided this mistake?
Most of society is critical of a man’s failure, they love to rub their nose in it. But few people sit down and teach you how to avoid a mistake or better yet how to learn from those mistakes.
When it’s all said and done there are going to be decisions where you don’t get a do-over, you can’t have a second try to do it right. Whatever you do in that moment will be set in stone, whether you understand the gravity of your decision or not.
The idea is to make your mistakes early in life, don’t repeat those mistakes, and learn from those mistakes.
Build that gut, trust yourself. Failure on your own merit. Because at the end of the day when you do fail you have no one to blame but yourself.
Burning in paradise 